What if nailing that big goal of yours really comes down to not trying too hard? While this may seem counterintuitive at first, it could unlock the most reliable way to find success. Here’s a different way to approach goals and ultimately achieve them, that won’t leave you exhausted after a few weeks!
Turns out, we don’t have to try so hard to make big things happen. In fact, the bare minimum may be the ticket!
We’ve all felt the pull of a giant goal, just waiting for us to accomplish it. We want to drink more water, keep our house tidy, become a raving success, and create an exercise routine that we will actually keep up with. Regardless of how revved up we are when we start these journeys to self-fulfillment and success, it’s all too easy to peter out a few weeks in. We end up disappointed in ourselves; in our inability to just do the thing.
You’ll be happy to know that it’s not your fault.
It’s hard to keep up that sort of consistent, hyper-focused motivation, no matter how committed you are. Even Christine Carter, who has been coaching individuals and corporations on how to accomplish their goals for decades, struggled to keep up the goals she set for herself when quarantine started in March of 2020.
In her failure, she wound up realizing that if we come to expect disappointment, we can use it to our advantage. What if we simply require ourselves only to do something so minuscule, that it would feel silly if we didn’t?
Want to start getting outside more? Try just opening your door. Working to eat healthier? Put one piece of lettuce on your sandwich.
The hardest part of accomplishing any goal isn’t getting started, but sticking with it. Here’s Christine with her take on the most effective way to do so in her awesome TED Talk!
“Our ability to follow through on our best intentions to get into a new habit … or to change our behavior in any way really, doesn’t actually depend on the reasons we might do it or on the depth of our convictions that we should do so. It doesn’t depend on our understanding of the benefits of a particular behavior or even on the strength of our willpower. It depends on our willingness to be bad at our desired behavior.” — Christine Carter
Go on, be your bad self!
Developing a real habit or breaking old ones is already hard enough without expecting ourselves to be perfect right away. When we allow room for ourselves to feel unmotivated and to be pretty not-great at the task at hand, we leave space for—dare I say it?—fun! And possibly some pride, as well.
The goal isn’t high achievement, it’s repetition.
When we don’t force ourselves to meet the big goal every single time, and instead focus on doing as much as we enjoy, even if just for a minute, we’re more likely to keep coming back and eventually create a goal that sticks.
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As always, stay open to new possibilities! And remember, picking that single sock up off of your bedroom floor may lead to great things.
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- TED. “The 1-Minute Secret to Forming a New Habit | Christine Carter.” YouTube, 26 Jan. 2021, www.youtube.com/watch?v=EvGkSEuWtaI&feature=emb_title. Accessed 16 Feb. 2021. ↩