Good friends love what makes us unique. They encourage us to join them in moments of relaxation and small celebrations. They high-five us for good intention, even in the face of failure.

What if we stopped thinking of ourselves as the sum of our successes, and started treating ourselves like a good friend would?

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Usually on Sundays at Ever Widening Circles (EWC), we write a lengthier piece because we think of it as an opportunity for you to relax into something interesting, like the way many people used to leisurely read the Sunday paper. But today we are going to offer you something a little briefer, and then give you a little gratifying homework, maybe put into practice some of the tips in the video we are pointing you to.

Today’s video covers a subject that’s exceptionally important, but also very personal. It’s about whoever is staring at these words through a screen right now.

Today is about you. It’s about finding some balance in our routines and the way we think about ourselves. Are we as supportive as we would be to a good friend? Start listening to the chatter inside your head, and see if today’s video cracks a window open on a new perspective.

So be nice to yourself today, and give this video written and narrated by Alain De Botton from the School of Life and brought to life by the creative mind of Joe Bichard a watch.

What do you think could happen if we all really started appreciating and embracing our uniqueness? What if we stopped being so hard on ourselves about things that are simply out of our control?

Where would we go next, what new options would be apparent, even obvious? Where could we end up?

We rarely do this, but today we are going to give you a little homework. Wherever you are, take the next 15 minutes for a little bit of self-compassion, go ahead and give the meditation in this video a try! You’re already here, why not give it a go!

Rewind the video and start the guided thought process at 1:30. I just sat quietly at my desk with my eyes closed and with my finger on the pause button. I stopped and started the video when I heard the chorus of strangely harmonizing voices (that marks the point between the concept he’s asking us to consider) and I actually followed his suggestions to consider each point carefully before moving on. It took about 10 minutes. Time well spent. I feel great!

He’s so right, over and over.

The most powerful thing in your world is your own mind. Don’t allow it hurt or limit you, because you probably know, in your heart of hearts, that you’re just doing your best.

Keep yourself open to new possibilities and happiness will stay nearby!


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  1. “Self Compassion.” YouTube. The School of Life, 01 Feb. 2016. Web. 05 Oct. 2017. <>.
  2. “A Self Compassion Exercise.” Vimeo. Joe Bichard, July 2017. Web. 01 July 2016. <>.

Sam has written and edited hundreds of articles since joining the EWC team in 2016. She writes about topics from the wonders of nature to the organizations changing the world and the simple joys in life! Outside of the EWC office, she’s a part-time printmaker, collector of knick-knacks, and taster of cheeses.