Pay Forward: Bring It On In For a Hug

Posted on November 26, 2014 by Denise Schomody

Preface by Dr. Lynda: Today we are going to circle through a subject that keeps coming up lately: when people do something kind, they are thinking in terms of the pay forward concept

Have you noticed a little uptick in the kindnesses of strangers lately? I have, and it’s made me stop, think, and be a little kinder at my next opportunity.

Image: AJ teaching Liesl to blow bubbles, future Life Vest Inside Fans
Pay Forward in the very young!
Today’s author, A.J. Ulrich, and his little cousin, EWC writer Liesl. Random act of kindness: teaching her to blow bubbles instead of dumping that whole bottle of soap on her head!

And then today, when I planned to share a really lovely video on this subject, I saw this story on my 23-year-old nephew’s Facebook wall. He’s a former college football player, a gritty, hard-working farm kid headed for the Air National Guard… so he’s not one of those people who are prone to waiting for the next spooky warm-fuzzy.

Here’s A.J. Ulrich’s story with a Pay Forward twist, and his first article for Ever Widening Circles.

Pay Forward plays out in just a pair of socks

By A.J. Ulrich

Something pretty cool happened today shopping at Costco. I struck out this morning to do an errand for my family and I had a list of items I needed to buy. Most importantly, I had a firm money limit. As I filled my cart, I thought I had nailed the amount perfectly and would have a few dollars leftover for a new pair of warm socks.

Unfortunately, when everything was rung up at the cash register, I was $10 over, so I took the winter socks out to give back to the cashier. At that moment, the nice older lady behind me spoke up.

“Let me buy those for you” she says, matter-of-factly. I was shocked at first, and responded. “You don’t have to do that,” I told her to which she responded, “of course I don’t, and I’ll do it anyway.”

Everyone within earshot was stunned, including the cashier. After a tiny pause, I thanked her, threw open my arms and said, “Bring it on in for a hug!”

I thanked that generous lady and given the opportunity, very soon I will look for a way to pay it forward myself!

Here’s a video made by a wonderful organization called “Life Vest Inside”,  that tells my story, the nice lady’s story, and the story of thousands of other people who are giving this way of life a try:

I think this whole concept of kindness and pay forward may be something to keep an eye on. I know for me, I’ll probably end up paying that $10 forward countless times, making the multiplier factor unimaginable… over a simple pair of socks.

What would the world look like if we all followed that lead?

Thanks to today’s newest EWC contributor A.J. Ulrich for writing and submitting this excellent story! Ulrich is, as you might have guessed, related to EWC founders Dr. Lynda and Dr. Chuck, hailing from their home state of Illinois. At 23 years old, Ulrich is a graduate of Monmouth College in IL where he played Offensive Tackle and where he is know a graduate assistant for the team. A.J. is also a pilot just like his father (Dr. Lynda’s brother), and is in the process of enlisting in the Air National Guard.

Want to contact A.J. Ulrich. Use our contact us page!

And of course, thank you to the “Life Vest Inside” organization for producing that wonderful video that has had 20 million views!.. We got to know the organization’s founder, over a couple months and found her to be the most extraordinary person: positive, generous with her time, perfectly suited to change the world a little! 

If you want to dive a little deeper kindness, check out the article we wrote on the subject called Generosity: To Give Without Reason. It’s a fabulous story! Another I can highly recommend is called Empowering the Homeless through Innovation: One Stitch at a Time.

You can also just scroll down to the bottom of this page where you’ll find a few of my favorite articles that continue some of the trains of thought here!


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Meanwhile, stay open, curious and hopeful!

~ Dr. Lynda